Friday, February 1, 2013
Family relationships are more than just another adult relationship
Without a doubt the most asinine comments I get involve the observation that “Molyneux isn't against the family. He is only about voluntarily ending unhealthy relationships.”
I have a question for those commenter's and anyone else who thinks that is “all Moly is saying”. If the only thing Moly puts forth is this simpleton axiom, then why are you listening to him on anything related to the family?
I suspect that the answer is because that is NOT all he believes. Like all con men, he starts with an obvious truth and then corrupts it. He drones on and on, as if he had a clue, as to what a healthy parent child relationship is about. In the course of his never ending pod-casts he offers one seemingly obvious but totally incorrect message. Moly and his wife try to get you to believe that your relationships with your parents are no different than any other “adult” relationship in your life. He claims that you should have the same standard with your parents as other relationships. As reasonable as that sounds at first, if you take any time to consider it, you have to find that it is a truly silly construct.
A healthy relationship with your parents is nothing like other adult relationships. It shouldn't be. A healthy relationship with your parents involves lots of things that would never exist anywhere else in your life. If you are doing well and you are happy, your parents are happy right along with you. No one else in your life cares about you in that way. If you are screwing up, your parents will likely speak up. If you have a brain, you will at least give their opinion some consideration. If you reject their advice, they will take it in stride and wish you well. In what other relationship in your life, can you just show up at their home and be welcomed in no matter what. Your parents are planning on how they can give you their estate when they die. Is there any other ‘adult relationship’ you have that involves estate planning? Or how about simple table manners. Your parents provided you with food, security, shelter and love for the first 20 years or so of your life. They endured all your bad behavior and peccadilloes and still supported you and loved you. As a matter of morality and ethics, you should return the favor and forgive them their transgressions. Anyone can come up with countless additional examples of why the healthy family relationship is, and should be, fundamentally different from 'other adult relationships.'
If you think differently, feel free to get a grip.